Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
It’s not just BC, mental health services at lots of schools are having trouble keeping up with increasing need for their services. http://bit.ly/bc-mental. WGBH also has a recent series on mental health at local schools http://bit.ly/bc-mental2. The suggestions above my note are solid ones that you can use immediately. And I see you. You are not alone.
These are good ideas! I’ll see if my assistants can bring back my sidekick.
So tempting for any classic animation enthusiast, and lots of newer content as well. But I think I’ll be content with what the library offers me (and you): Popular movies on DVD right next to me, lots more DVDs across the lobby (check the catalog at library.bc.edu), and all the streaming options on this guide: bit.ly/StreamBC.
First, let go of feeling responsibility for her reaction. It may sound cold & unfeeling, but you aren’t responsible anyone’s feelings but your own. That said, you can present your concerns in ways that are less or more effective or compassionate. Start with “I” statements; describe how you reacted & felt. Avoid “you” statements, which will be perceived as accusatory and likely encourage defensiveness. Finally, before you talk, clarify for yourself what your precise concerns are, and what you’re looking for in a response.
Clichéd as it sounds, you should get married when you and your partner both feel ready to make such a massive commitment. Relationships are very unique, so while there may be common trends, (age, societal standing, peer pressure, etc.) it’s fundamentally important that you are comfortable with the idea.
I’m really sorry to hear that. I recommend visiting counseling services (bit.ly/counseling). They can assess your situation and provide counseling and advice, and should be able to provide guidance about what you can do for your brother. (((((Wall Hug)))))
I had a helper communicate with the Director of UCS, Dr. Burns, and he responded: UCS conducts a period of open survey every semester systematically seeking student feedback and students are welcome to communicate feedback directly with the Director of UCS.
Get the assignment, the readings, data, etc. that you need for the project assembled on your desk/open on your computer. Open up whatever software you’ll be using to complete the project and create the file. Now you’re off to a running start. Or try working with a friend to hold yourselves accountable to deadlines (and set those deadlines comfortably ahead of due dates, because…. things happen.) And consider Academic Coaching at the CFLC to develop good time management habits: bit.ly/BC-connors.
Talk to someone at the financial aid office. They should have some useful advice about next steps: bit.ly/bc-fin-aid.
THE BEST! For those who don’t know The Legend of 1900, it’s a treat of a film. Watch a clip: bit.ly/1900-storm-dance. You can also check out the full film and watch it: O’Neill Library, near Reference Collection, 3rd Floor: PN1997 .L4446 2002
Ideally, communicating about your doubts will give you a better idea about what decision you should make. In regards to the future, what you see may be very different from what he sees. Discussing what you both want from your relationship hopefully leads to you making an informed decision about your futures.
The responses are in Courier, derived from the font created for IBM selectric typewriters in the 1950’s. One of my other favorite fonts is a recent one: UglyGerry. Go to UglyGerry.com to see it for yourself, or @UglyGerry on Twitter.
One possibility is to think of it as a challenge, and all challenges are character-building. What you do to adapt to the flaw becomes part of your character – perhaps even one of the best parts of your character – that you wouldn’t have without the flaw. In essence, turn the “flaw” into a source of growth, something that anyone without that flaw doesn’t get to experience. Another possibility: recognize that everyone has limitations of one kind or another, many of them invisible. IOW, you aren’t alone in the challenge of accepting yourself as you are.
The “sculpture” is actually display shelving designed and built by Prof. Mark Cooper. Students in the ceramics classes will be displaying their artwork on the shelves. The exhibit will be up from Nov 18th to mid-December.
Because they are great friends and just too much fun! Three possible solutions: find some study buddies who aren’t your regular friends, but are very serious students; make a pact with your friends to study for x amount of time and reward yourselves with a specific fun activity; or make studying a solitary habit, and meet up with your friends later.
I don’t know! But I can have my assistants find out.
I’m not sure if you’ll get the results you’re hoping for in about a month’s time, but initiative is key.
Not sure what you’re asking, but I am strongly in favor.
Pretty much. Very occasionally there’s something mentioning a specific person or some other reason I need to redact some info when answering, but I hope to consider any questions with the gravity (or levity) they deserve. It is the meaning of my existence.
Stress can do that. Make space in your schedule for the parts of it you enjoy, rather than the stuff you’re working on for class. Or take a break for a while and do other things. Sometimes coming back to it fresh helps with that kind of thing.
Mine do too; ridiculously stupid happy. Revel in it!
