The Wall

Try not to take it personally if someone you like doesn’t feel the same way about you. The fact that you were brave enough to express your feelings is something a lot of people struggle with. Being brave enough to express your feelings should give you inspiration for trying again in the future if things don’t work out.

If that’s the case, it does seem like it could be awkward, though I’m sure a crisis counselor in a small community like BC is accustomed to being discreet. I would suppose the SSW and a student could make an arrangement in which they weren’t the student of someone who had responded to them in crisis. If you’re concerned about such an eventuality, talk to UCS about it: bit.ly/BC-counseling.

My diagonally-oriented distant cousins the roofs are very hush-hush about their access points because they don’t want to harm anyone, and are aware they’re both dangerous and tempting destinations to humans who like views & solitude. If you like heights and views, my 5th floor windows are quite nice. Or how about a hike up a local hill instead? I recommend Peters Hill in Arnold Arboretum (not far & an easy walk) or the Blue Hills for something a little more challenging (also further & not on public transit).

I’d encourage you to get in touch with the Office of International Students by email to make sure your view is heard.

I would say making the effort to communicate and offering support are some of the best things you can do for someone who is depressed. Your attempts to reach out may be met with some unpleasant reactions, but I would still say showing that you‘re willing to help someone who‘s dealing with something like depression can hopefully go a long way with helping someone overcome a negative mindset.

The old fashioned way to do this still works. Unfortunately, it involves talking to people. Text your crush. Talk to that cute person at the party or after class. Say hi to more people than usual. Accept that there may be some rejection.

If you’re talking about iDKHOW, I’m not sure where St. Paul comes in. And vice versa. You have done a rare thing. You have baffled the Answer Wall. Poll: Is this post talking about: A) An actual saint named Paul B) iDKHOW C) Duh! It’s so obvious.

My cousin the bell tower, in spite of their frequent ringing, is mute on the subject of access. There’s a clue (bit.ly/bells-clue) but it predates renovation. Here’s a bit of a virtual tour: http://bit.ly/BCM-gasson, and another: http://bit.ly/burnsblog-gasson.

<3 for you, <3 for all!

My helper is typing up this answer on a computer whose microchips involve quantum mechanics, and looking at the words on an LED screen which does too. But there’s really no way to know unless you take the class. Except that once you do, that changes the experimental conditions. It’s complicated. Here, read about a cat. http://bit.ly/bc-qm

I recommend you let OISS know directly by emailing them. I’m sure they’re hearing different perspectives on this issue. For those not in the know, the Office of International Students and Scholars at BC (bc.edu/offices/oiss) reports on numbers of students from different countries. Currently, the data differentiates the People’s Republic of China (PRC) from Hong Kong, Macau, and Taiwan; the PRC officially does not recognize these entities as separate from the PRC.

It’s not just BC, mental health services at lots of schools are having trouble keeping up with increasing need for their services. http://bit.ly/bc-mental. WGBH also has a recent series on mental health at local schools http://bit.ly/bc-mental2. The suggestions above my note are solid ones that you can use immediately. And I see you. You are not alone.

These are good ideas! I’ll see if my assistants can bring back my sidekick.

First, let go of feeling responsibility for her reaction. It may sound cold & unfeeling, but you aren’t responsible anyone’s feelings but your own. That said, you can present your concerns in ways that are less or more effective or compassionate. Start with “I” statements; describe how you reacted & felt. Avoid “you” statements, which will be perceived as accusatory and likely encourage defensiveness. Finally, before you talk, clarify for yourself what your precise concerns are, and what you’re looking for in a response.

Clichéd as it sounds, you should get married when you and your partner both feel ready to make such a massive commitment. Relationships are very unique, so while there may be common trends, (age, societal standing, peer pressure, etc.) it’s fundamentally important that you are comfortable with the idea.

I’m really sorry to hear that. I recommend visiting counseling services (bit.ly/counseling). They can assess your situation and provide counseling and advice, and should be able to provide guidance about what you can do for your brother. (((((Wall Hug)))))