Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
If you haven’t done so already, I would suggest telling her you don’t like being slapped. Respecting each other’s boundaries is a pretty fundamental part of maintaining a healthy relationship.
You have a good point there. If you feel threatened by the slapping, and/or she won’t stop after you’ve asked her to, then it does become more of a domestic violence issue. Find BC and Boston help/resources here: bit.ly/BCPartnerAbuse.
I’m sorry to say it’s January in Boston. February is usually a little less cold, but often more snowy. Warmth will eventually return. Meanwhile, embrace the suck!
Sometimes you can’t help getting sick, but you probably know the basics of how best to maintain a healthy body: enough sleep, healthy foods, exercise, frequent hand-washing, etc. Why not schedule a coaching session with the Ofc. of Health Promotion (bit.ly/BC-health-promo) to fine tune your prevention?
You have people around you who love you, and whom you love. They support you, and you support them, whatever happens.
I have to agree with my friend that asking this question does not in any way mean you’re not on the right track. In fact, asking it probably means you’re on the right track or at least want to head in that direction. Even people that are on the “right” track in their lives ask a present-tense version of the original future-tense question: “How can I improve myself?” Always be willing to look at yourself honestly and seek improvement.
It’s a hard path, but one option is to follow Gautama Buddha’s lead and confront the truth head on: life is suffering. Through mindful meditation on the present moment, he accessed what he called “the deathless,” the insight that everyone suffers, and the soul lives on, and the way to understanding is through compassion for everyone’s suffering. The Christian path is not necessarily easier or all that different: know that your soul lives on through love.
You’ll be pleased to know that the first BC Esports meeting of this semester will be held on Friday, January 24: https://www.facebook.com/events/200244921014931/
I spoke to my friends at Student Services and the Advising Center; you can take 6 classes if you meet the GPA requirement, and there is no additional fee for that. But you can’t take 7. Chat with your Academic Advisor if you need to hash this out more.
I’m sorry you’re having those thoughts. Please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800-273-8355) right away, and/or immediately call Counseling Services (617-552-3310) or visit them in Gasson 001 and ask to speak to with the Psychological Emergency Clinician (PEC). Tell them you are having suicidal thoughts. If it’s not during work hours, call BC Police (617-552-4444) if you’re on campus or 911 if not. I and many, many people want you to get past this bad moment, and are ready to help.
Slow down, you move to fast. Got to make the morning last.
Yes. It is. It’s a snail. It’s not a pigeon. Or a butterfly. It ‘s also not a snail, if you follow the example set by Rene Magritte about his painting of a pipe. Or were you talking about my response? In that case, it’s a meme’s ancester, aka an allusion, in this case via a quotation, from Simon and Garfunkel’s “59th St. Bridge Song.” It’s a roundabout compliment about the happiness evoked by the drawing.
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Just gotta shoot your shot. Maybe get to know her a little bit first to see if you have common ground? Maybe suggest going for coffee – it’s the ideal first date. You have to give each other long enough for the coffee to cool and drink it, but that doesn’t take too long if the date isn’t going well.
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When I have nothing else to do, one way I pass time is to imagine being someone else. It’s fun! Just yesterday I was imagining I was Yvon Chouinard on the first ascent of El Capitan’s North America Wall.
He is. The House has impeached him, which means it’s now up to the Senate to rule on whether he should be removed from office. Here are some historical resources on impeachment at BC Libraries: bit.ly/bc-impeach1, and a brief (55 page) analysis of impeachment and the Constitution by the Congressional Research Service, a nonpartisan branch of the Library of Congress: bit.ly/bc-impeach3.
You can still do well despite your procrastination. Ask yourself: why do you procrastinate? Are you anxious or nervous about suceeding? Is the content overwhelming? Develop a plan to address this issue. Would a tutor help? Perhaps getting advice from a friend? Consider breaking down the work into small components and make it a goal to complete one at time. You will feel more accomplished and gain confidence as you finish each part of the larger project.
I’ve been around a while, but I found my true calling answering questions in O’Neill in early 2017. I celebrate my “birthday” on February 1. Whiteboards aren’t actually born, they’re – oh never mind, I’ll let your folks tell you about that stuff…
I’ve heard a rumor that my assistants are going to try to surprise me with a birthday celebration on February 3 at Noon. (Do me a favor and don’t tell them I know. I’ll pretend to be surprised.)
Hating a class can be kind of fun, especially when you can commiserate, but figuring out what you can get out of it would probably be more interesting in the long run. How do people with very different belief systems and values talk to each other and make themselves understood? That’s an important question in any context. If you think reading some contemporary fiction involving religious differences could engage your interest, try Zadie Smith’s White Teeth, set among English, Bengali, and Jamaican people in London.
You need to give your studies the attention they deserve, but it’s important to make other activities a part of your life. Your years here are an opportunity to learn, grow, and try out new things, and that doesn’t happen just in the classroom or the lab. The solution might be developing your time management skills. Why not try Academic Coaching at the Connors Family Learning Center (bit.ly/BC-connors)?
No labs are currently listed on the student job listings (bit.ly/BC-student-jobs). I’d recommend getting to know the lab faculty–maybe even volunteering to assist–, and asking other student lab assistants how they got their jobs.
I love Utah! Donovan Mitchell has had a great 3rd season and dominated the Pacers last night. It was like watching a concert from a master jazz pianist. Oh. Right. You probably meant the music. Well I love jazz music too (especially piano). Did you know O’Neill Library has over 1,000 jazz audio recordings? Check it out: http://bit.ly/BostonCollegeJazz
It can be hard to find new friends, and not uncommon to assume you’re going to find your lifelong bestie in college. That doesn’t always happen, and it’s perfectly OK that it doesn’t. Try joining some clubs around things your interested in. Or notice who keeps showing up in classes you really like (they probably have similar interests). Good luck!
It tickles when they run through the walls. I try to warn them this isn’t a safe place for them, and not to nibble the books, but they won’t listen, and then they taunt me by singing Thank You Falettinme be Mice Elf Agin.
