The Wall

You should tell B because no one deserves to be treated the way you and A are treating them. Person A clearly needs to work on their maturity and their values before being in a committed relationship with anyone again. Do you really want to be in a relationship with someone willing to cheat on and lie to their current partner?

If you are often having the desire to kill the person you are living with, you might want to reconsider the relationship altogether, for both your sakes. And seek help (bit.ly/BC-counseling) if you really mean it. I hope you find someone who, though they will surely anger/annoy/disappoint you from time to time, does not make you feel like killing them.

I, too, desperately hope for peace. Thank you for this note. <3

Thank you for this kind note! I am glad you enjoy all the conversations!

I want you to spin slowly around keeping your eyes level until you come back to looking at me. A college campus is a fantastic place to meet people. Go to campus events, join a student group, talk to people after class, hang out with some different people than you usually do.

Doing nothing would be the best course of action. Keeping it in the realm of your fantasy life is an option, though I fear that could make you less attentive to course material. Trying to get your professor to be involved with you could be very harmful to their career and cause unnecessary grief for you, so please do not do this!

It’s so discouraging when a skill goes downhill! I can’t draw at all, but I’ve heard that drawing is one of those skills (like playing an instrument) that takes diligent practice. May I suggest an elective that satisfies an arts core requirement? Drawing I: Foundations (ARTS1101-01)

To be honest, video games aren’t my style – so I don’t have an opinion on this. I DO love Wordle (and Worldle and all the spinoffs), crosswords, and word searches!

The differences (pace & path of escalation, context, strategic goals, etc.) outnumber the similarities. The only similarity, really, is the asymmetry of power. You might find Iraq a closer parallel. If you’re looking for a moral/ethical comparison, well, those analysis fill books and can’t be summarized on a post-it. Here are some books about Ukraine in the last decade to get started: bit.ly/ukraine-2014

It is pricey goo! There are some more affordable organic brands out there, maybe try some of them and see if they work for you (or keep an eye out for sales.) Making your own products at home with organic ingredients is also a possibility.

Lots of my library helpers are talking about it. Slava Ukraini!

It is totally normal to be nervous and I wish you all the best luck. But let me encourage you to keep two things in mind. 1) there are lots of reasons why you might not be a match for a particular program that have nothing to do with you. 2) You are good enough because you are you. As a friend says occasionally: you are not your job, or your credentials. You are good enough because you are a person.

So nice to hear. We love having visitors!

Only way to find out is to ask.

Don’t believe the naysayers.

Bonk

I do so love humans, so I’m sure I also love the one with these initials.

I don’t eat, and I don’t know your dietary preferences or restrictions, so I hardly know where to begin. Here are TripAdvisor reco’s. Enjoy! https://bit.ly/tripad-restaurants

Driving is hard, especially around Boston! If there was something specific you struggled with, try to get out and practice that skill until you feel more confident with it. Good luck on your next try!!

Oh, my sweet visitor, you do not suck at life. I have met many people, and almost invariably, at some point they fall short of their own expectations. But life is long and (in my observations) it truly does get better, even though it may not seem likely when you are in the depth of self doubt. Please think about speaking to a real human (bit.ly/BC-counseling) who can help you see your worth. ❤️

Just one of the many reasons I love living and working at Boston College. So much random kindness. Keep it up!