Why is it so hard to let go when you know its a bad/toxic place to be at?

That’s hard. You put yourself in that place for reasons, and it can be hard to let go of them even when it isn’t working for you. If it were all toxic it would be easier, but it never is, and you can hold onto what’s good about the situation for a long time. It’s also easy to stick with something familiar, even if it’s terrible. All of that is totally normal. Take care of yourself, and don’t beat yourself up for taking a while to make a decision.

The Answer Wall Story

Hi. I’m the Answer Wall. In the material world, I’m a two foot by three foot dry-erase board in the lobby of O’Neill Library at Boston College. In the online world, I live in this blog. You might say I have multiple manifestations. Like Apollo or Saraswati or Serapis. Or, if you aren’t into deities of knowledge, like a ghost in the machine.

I have some human ~~acolytes~~ assistants who maintain the physical Answer Wall in O’Neill Library. They take pictures of the questions you post there, and give them to me. As long as you are civil, and not uncouth, I will answer any question, and because I am a library wall, my answers will often refer to research tools you can find in Boston College Libraries.

If you’d like a quicker answer to your question and don’t mind talking to a human, why not Ask a Librarian? Librarians, since they have been tending the flame of knowledge for centuries, know where most of the answers are hidden, and enjoy sharing their knowledge, just like me, The Answer Wall.