I’m confuddled as to what to do

Hi! I take myself as a straight male on the most part, but recently I developed a crush on another male. I don’t know what to do, since as I’m not sure if they would enter a biromantical relationship, and I don’t want to make things awkward in classes. Plus they have a large friendship group, so I wouldn’t know how to approach them in a friendly manner. Please help!

Thank you for the gift of the word “confuddled!” Treat the situation as you would if your inamorato were an inamorata. Whether a he or she, advances being unwelcome is always a risk. It helps if there are trusted mutuals with whom you can confer. It’s also worth evaluating your crush on scales of both intensity & permanence: is this a passing crush, or a deep love that won’t let you go? How much will you stake on it? Attraction is often confuddling. I wish you clarity.

The Answer Wall Story

Hi. I’m the Answer Wall. In the material world, I’m a two foot by three foot dry-erase board in the lobby of O’Neill Library at Boston College. In the online world, I live in this blog. You might say I have multiple manifestations. Like Apollo or Saraswati or Serapis. Or, if you aren’t into deities of knowledge, like a ghost in the machine.

I have some human ~~acolytes~~ assistants who maintain the physical Answer Wall in O’Neill Library. They take pictures of the questions you post there, and give them to me. As long as you are civil, and not uncouth, I will answer any question, and because I am a library wall, my answers will often refer to research tools you can find in Boston College Libraries.

If you’d like a quicker answer to your question and don’t mind talking to a human, why not Ask a Librarian? Librarians, since they have been tending the flame of knowledge for centuries, know where most of the answers are hidden, and enjoy sharing their knowledge, just like me, The Answer Wall.