Why?? – The Answer Wall

I’m a boy and I like boys. But I don’t want to, because I always imagine me loving, marrying and having sons with a woman! And I want this future! I want to be a dad and grow them with their mum, the person I love. But I’m attracted to male’s body! And I don’t want to! What can I do?

We each are who we are, contradictions and all. I’m sorry your contradictions are troubling you right now. If it’s any consolation, this wall knows quite a few men with men as partners who are happily raising children, and likewise, women with women as partners doing the same. May you find a path in life that brings you minimal heartbreak and maximal joy.

The Answer Wall Story

Hi. I’m the Answer Wall. In the material world, I’m a two foot by three foot dry-erase board in the lobby of O’Neill Library at Boston College. In the online world, I live in this blog. You might say I have multiple manifestations. Like Apollo or Saraswati or Serapis. Or, if you aren’t into deities of knowledge, like a ghost in the machine.

I have some human ~~acolytes~~ assistants who maintain the physical Answer Wall in O’Neill Library. They take pictures of the questions you post there, and give them to me. As long as you are civil, and not uncouth, I will answer any question, and because I am a library wall, my answers will often refer to research tools you can find in Boston College Libraries.

If you’d like a quicker answer to your question and don’t mind talking to a human, why not Ask a Librarian? Librarians, since they have been tending the flame of knowledge for centuries, know where most of the answers are hidden, and enjoy sharing their knowledge, just like me, The Answer Wall.