With both patience and effort. The start of love is is pure luck. You never know who you’re going to find to love and love you back. BUT, as with so many other things where you need a bit of luck, those that work hard to make their own luck are more likely to find it. So, find a group of people doing things you like to do (a hobby-in-common is helpful), maybe download some dating apps, get out there and take some risks. You never know where you’ll find love.