{"id":23886,"date":"2023-10-17T08:57:01","date_gmt":"2023-10-17T12:57:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/?p=23886"},"modified":"2023-10-20T16:32:38","modified_gmt":"2023-10-20T20:32:38","slug":"i-feel-like-i-never-belonged-here","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/2023\/10\/17\/i-feel-like-i-never-belonged-here\/","title":{"rendered":"I feel like I never belonged here."},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><a href=\"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/aw10172023-02.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"316\" height=\"320\" src=\"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/aw10172023-02.jpg\" alt=\"I feel like I never belonged here.\" class=\"wp-image-23885\" srcset=\"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/aw10172023-02.jpg 316w, https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/aw10172023-02-296x300.jpg 296w, https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/aw10172023-02-100x100.jpg 100w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 316px) 100vw, 316px\" \/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">I feel like I never belonged here.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>This makes me sad. BC is as much yours as any other student&#8217;s, and I wish everyone felt welcome here. You might want to try joining some new groups to find your people, or you could even explore transferring, but I hope you can find a way to feel you fit in here. Talking with Counseling Services might also be helpful (bit.ly\/BC-counseling).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><a href=\"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/AW10172023-5.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"108\" src=\"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/AW10172023-5.jpg\" alt=\"Quit whining\" class=\"wp-image-23888\"\/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Quit whining<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>As a supportive wall, I prefer to err on the side of trusting that someone&#8217;s words are true for them, and not inconsequential. For instance, your request that they stop whining suggests that you feel other suffering is more substantial and warrants mention, and that this complaint belittles others&#8217; suffering, perhaps your own. It&#8217;s not a competition, but loneliness &amp; a lack of belonging can be one of the worst forms of suffering, surpassing even disease and pain. I hope you find compassionate ears for your own suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><a href=\"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/AW10192023-5.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"354\" src=\"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/AW10192023-5.jpg\" alt=\"Drawing of thumbs down with an arrow pointing to the right (Appears to be Directed to &quot;Quit Whining&quot;)\" class=\"wp-image-23933\" srcset=\"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/AW10192023-5.jpg 300w, https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/AW10192023-5-254x300.jpg 254w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Drawing of thumbs down with an arrow pointing to the right (Appears to be Directed to &#8220;Quit Whining&#8221;)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>May we all find the support we need!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This makes me sad. BC is as much yours as any other student&#8217;s, and I wish everyone felt welcome here. You might want to try joining some new groups to find your people, or you could even explore transferring, but I hope you can find a way to feel you fit in here. Talking with &hellip; <\/p>\n<p class=\"link-more\"><a href=\"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/2023\/10\/17\/i-feel-like-i-never-belonged-here\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;I feel like I never belonged here.&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-23886","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23886","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=23886"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23886\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":23949,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23886\/revisions\/23949"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=23886"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=23886"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=23886"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}