{"id":20898,"date":"2022-11-22T19:58:15","date_gmt":"2022-11-23T00:58:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/?p=20898"},"modified":"2022-11-23T14:51:32","modified_gmt":"2022-11-23T19:51:32","slug":"how-do-i-ask-for-better-communication-and-how-do-i-know-when-enough-is-enough","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/2022\/11\/22\/how-do-i-ask-for-better-communication-and-how-do-i-know-when-enough-is-enough\/","title":{"rendered":"How do I ask for better communication? And how do I know when enough is enough?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><a href=\"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/IMG_6879.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"320\" height=\"283\" src=\"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/IMG_6879.jpg\" alt=\"How do I ask for better communication? And how do I know when enough is enough?\" class=\"wp-image-20892\" srcset=\"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/IMG_6879.jpg 320w, https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/IMG_6879-300x265.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 320px) 100vw, 320px\" \/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">How do I ask for better communication? And how do I know when enough is enough?<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Put the lack of communication in context of its consequences, e.g., &#8220;You didn&#8217;t tell me seeing this movie was the most important thing to you this month, so I thought it was negotiable. It seems like you expect me to just know what you&#8217;re thinking or feeling, which sets me up for failure.&#8221; You can always ask for better communication. (Others can ask it of you, too.) If you keep asking, and it keeps not happening&#8230; it&#8217;s also up to you when you&#8217;ve had enough. Everyone has flaws. A wise person once said to me about picking a life partner: you know they&#8217;re a keeper if you can put up with their flaws and you can&#8217;t live without their virtues.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Put the lack of communication in context of its consequences, e.g., &#8220;You didn&#8217;t tell me seeing this movie was the most important thing to you this month, so I thought it was negotiable. It seems like you expect me to just know what you&#8217;re thinking or feeling, which sets me up for failure.&#8221; You can &hellip; <\/p>\n<p class=\"link-more\"><a href=\"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/2022\/11\/22\/how-do-i-ask-for-better-communication-and-how-do-i-know-when-enough-is-enough\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;How do I ask for better communication? And how do I know when enough is enough?&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-20898","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20898","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20898"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20898\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":20904,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20898\/revisions\/20904"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20898"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20898"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20898"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}