{"id":19517,"date":"2022-06-27T08:49:35","date_gmt":"2022-06-27T12:49:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/?p=19517"},"modified":"2022-06-28T12:57:48","modified_gmt":"2022-06-28T16:57:48","slug":"im-gay-but-religious","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/2022\/06\/27\/im-gay-but-religious\/","title":{"rendered":"I’m gay, but Religious…"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

I really don’t want to stop practicing, but religion says i can’t be gay and so I’m always left in a space where i feel like I need to change\/ stop being being gay in order to live religiously because i genuinely am not at peace with doing both at the same time. I don’t know if i can acknowledge that I’m gay, make full peace with it ( which i have accepted) but Live a heterosexual life… i don’t think I’m Bi and i don’t know if it’ll work but i just think i would be able to… however i feel like I’d be happier in a gay relationship ( negating the hate the society will throw at us ) My other issue is, I like guys and everything but I really am not interested in gay sex when it comes, i just lose interest\/ my arousal is not hard enough or i feel like i can’t\/ don’t want to do it. I just don’t know if this is for me but when I’m alone i do feel like i need & want to spend some time with someone but when we get together, all interest is lost. I feel like ill also get help with this, I’m 20, in the closet but all my friends & one of my siblings (out of 6) know I’m gay, cause i came out and she supported me and advised me to embrace it… i don’t know if the others know and are in denial but they always talk about meeting gay people at work and then share something homophobic, one of my brothers think its a trend, and how he always wonders if it’ll affect me he said ” most doctors turn out gay, i don’t know what will happen to you after medschool”, i tried explaining indirectly how it’s natural but he kept rejecting it, clearly homophobic the day i posted that I’m finally going to be my self, one of my sisters rushed to my DMs asking what it meant, etc in panic and i could tell she was in fear that i might come out. My mother is in her 60s now, she has hpt, and I’m worried coming out might affect her health, I’ve been a ‘the’ perfect child to my family but I’m deeply depressed & struggling emotionally\/ mentally i don’t know what to do… Any advice<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You’re in a challenging situation, and I have faith that with guidance and support you’ll get through it and thrive as your authentic self. Many people struggle with faith; here are some stories of very committed Catholics<\/a> whose identity and place in the church are at odds. I recommend seeking counseling with someone who has worked with lgbtq issues around coming out. If you’re at BC, contact Caroline Davis at the Office of Student Outreach & Support: caroline.davis.2@bc.edu. If not, find support through The Trevor Project: thetrevorproject.org\/get-help\/.<\/a> I wish you happiness, health, safety, and peace.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I really don’t want to stop practicing, but religion says i can’t be gay and so I’m always left in a space where i feel like I need to change\/ stop being being gay in order to live religiously because i genuinely am not at peace with doing both at the same time. I don’t … <\/p>\n

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