{"id":16440,"date":"2021-10-20T09:49:49","date_gmt":"2021-10-20T13:49:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/?p=16440"},"modified":"2021-10-20T17:25:42","modified_gmt":"2021-10-20T21:25:42","slug":"how-do-i-stop-being-self-destructive-start-focusing-on-being-proactive","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/2021\/10\/20\/how-do-i-stop-being-self-destructive-start-focusing-on-being-proactive\/","title":{"rendered":"How do I stop being self destructive &#038; start focusing on being proactive?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><a href=\"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/aw102021-2.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"320\" height=\"304\" src=\"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/aw102021-2.jpg\" alt=\"How do I stop being self destructive &amp; start focusing on being proactive?\" class=\"wp-image-16434\" srcset=\"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/aw102021-2.jpg 320w, https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/aw102021-2-300x285.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 320px) 100vw, 320px\" \/><\/a><figcaption>How do I stop being self destructive &amp; start focusing on being proactive?<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>First, go easy on yourself. Change isn&#8217;t easy. A rule I try to follow is to treat myself as well as I&#8217;d like my friends to be treated, kind of the obverse of the golden rule. With that in mind, it&#8217;s also likely best not to attempt changing alone. Counseling is always a good place to start: bit.ly\/BC-counseling<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>First, go easy on yourself. Change isn&#8217;t easy. A rule I try to follow is to treat myself as well as I&#8217;d like my friends to be treated, kind of the obverse of the golden rule. With that in mind, it&#8217;s also likely best not to attempt changing alone. Counseling is always a good place &hellip; <\/p>\n<p class=\"link-more\"><a href=\"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/2021\/10\/20\/how-do-i-stop-being-self-destructive-start-focusing-on-being-proactive\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;How do I stop being self destructive &#038; start focusing on being proactive?&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-16440","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16440","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=16440"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16440\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":16449,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16440\/revisions\/16449"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=16440"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=16440"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=16440"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}