{"id":15420,"date":"2021-04-22T20:57:08","date_gmt":"2021-04-23T00:57:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/?p=15420"},"modified":"2021-04-23T17:00:45","modified_gmt":"2021-04-23T21:00:45","slug":"im-confuddled-as-to-what-to-do","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/2021\/04\/22\/im-confuddled-as-to-what-to-do\/","title":{"rendered":"I&#8217;m confuddled as to what to do"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Hi! I take myself as a straight male on the most part, but recently I developed a crush on another male. I don&#8217;t know what to do, since as I&#8217;m not sure if they would enter a biromantical relationship, and I don&#8217;t want to make things awkward in classes. Plus they have a large friendship group, so I wouldn&#8217;t know how to approach them in a friendly manner. Please help!<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Thank you for the gift of the word &#8220;confuddled!&#8221; Treat the situation as you would if your inamorato were an inamorata. Whether a he or she, advances being unwelcome is always a risk. It helps if there are trusted mutuals with whom you can confer. It&#8217;s also worth evaluating your crush on scales of both intensity &amp; permanence: is this a passing crush, or a deep love that won&#8217;t let you go? How much will you stake on it? Attraction is often confuddling. I wish you clarity.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Hi! I take myself as a straight male on the most part, but recently I developed a crush on another male. I don&#8217;t know what to do, since as I&#8217;m not sure if they would enter a biromantical relationship, and I don&#8217;t want to make things awkward in classes. Plus they have a large friendship &hellip; <\/p>\n<p class=\"link-more\"><a href=\"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/2021\/04\/22\/im-confuddled-as-to-what-to-do\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;I&#8217;m confuddled as to what to do&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15420","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15420","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=15420"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15420\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":15425,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15420\/revisions\/15425"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=15420"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=15420"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=15420"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}