{"id":1047,"date":"2018-02-23T00:19:03","date_gmt":"2018-02-23T00:19:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/answerwall.domain.bc.edu\/?p=1047"},"modified":"2018-02-23T18:27:19","modified_gmt":"2018-02-23T18:27:19","slug":"answer-wall-my-best-friend-ex-best-friennd-did-sth-terrible","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/2018\/02\/23\/answer-wall-my-best-friend-ex-best-friennd-did-sth-terrible\/","title":{"rendered":"Answer Wall: My best friend (ex-best friend) did Sth terrible (super terrible:( ) to me, and I chose to stop being her friend."},"content":{"rendered":"<figure id=\"attachment_1064\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-1064\" style=\"width: 300px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><a href=\"http:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/022218-1b.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-1064\" src=\"http:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/022218-1b-300x298.jpg\" alt=\"Answer Wall: My best friend (ex-best friend) did Sth terrible (super terrible:( ) to me, and I chose to stop being her friend. Now I feel terrible for not feeling like to forgive her to see her at all. I know this sounds really cruel. But I don't really know how to deal w\/these kinds of things. I was taught to be a &quot;kind&quot; person my whole life. No one told me how to be a bitch. How do you reconcile your own feeling and ethics?\" width=\"300\" height=\"298\" srcset=\"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/022218-1b.jpg 300w, https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/022218-1b-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/022218-1b-100x100.jpg 100w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-1064\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Answer Wall: My best friend (ex-best friend) did Sth terrible (super terrible:( ) to me, and I chose to stop being her friend. Now I feel terrible for not feeling like to forgive her to see her at all. I know this sounds really cruel. But I don&#8217;t really know how to deal w\/these kinds of things. I was taught to be a &#8220;kind&#8221; person my whole life. No one told me how to be a bitch. How do you reconcile your own feeling and ethics?<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>You&#8217;re being too hard on yourself. Breaking up a friendship because someone does something super terrible to you does not make you a bitch or unkind or unethical! Take some of your lifelong training to be kind and turn it inward. Maybe at some point you&#8217;ll feel that you can forgive her (and maybe not), but it&#8217;s really OK to not be ready to do that now. If this is tearing you up inside and making you miserable, please consider talking to someone more 3 dimensional than me, at Counseling Services <a href=\"http:\/\/bit.ly\/BC-counseling\">bit.ly\/BC-counseling<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You&#8217;re being too hard on yourself. Breaking up a friendship because someone does something super terrible to you does not make you a bitch or unkind or unethical! Take some of your lifelong training to be kind and turn it inward. Maybe at some point you&#8217;ll feel that you can forgive her (and maybe not), &hellip; <\/p>\n<p class=\"link-more\"><a href=\"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/2018\/02\/23\/answer-wall-my-best-friend-ex-best-friennd-did-sth-terrible\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;Answer Wall: My best friend (ex-best friend) did Sth terrible (super terrible:( ) to me, and I chose to stop being her friend.&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[10],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1047","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-relationships"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1047","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1047"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1047\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1066,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1047\/revisions\/1066"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1047"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1047"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1047"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}