{"id":10260,"date":"2019-09-30T16:12:31","date_gmt":"2019-09-30T20:12:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/?p=10260"},"modified":"2019-10-01T17:14:45","modified_gmt":"2019-10-01T21:14:45","slug":"hey-wall-so-my-parents-are-getting-a-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/library.bc.edu\/answerwall\/2019\/09\/30\/hey-wall-so-my-parents-are-getting-a-divorce\/","title":{"rendered":"Hey Wall, So my parents are getting a divorce."},"content":{"rendered":"\n
\"Hey
Hey Wall,\n\nSo my parents are getting a divorce. I know. Really sucks. But the real problem is this: Should I live with my mom or my dad? My mom got our house, so my dad got an apartment that\u2019s pretty crappy. But I like my dad\n<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"better.
better. So should I live in his crappy apartment just because I love him? On one other note, my mom\u2019s a better cook than my dad. So should I go with her because of the better house and food and not because I like her? Oh,<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"also,
also, my annoying little brother already chose to live with my mom. So I don\u2019t like my mom OR my brother, I would just be living w\/those two for the good food and nice house. That seems a little selfish to me, don\u2019t you think, wall? But this means that if I lived with my dad,<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"I
I would be happier without my mom and brother, but the house and food is bad. What do you think, wall? Oh, also, wall! I have this girlfriend, and she\u2019s, like, super rich. I recently proposed to her, but I\u2019m starting to think deeper. <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"Do
Do I really love her? Or am I just marrying her for her money. Wall, marriage is a big step. How do you now if you love somebody? Do you just wake up one day and realize it? Or is it more complicated than that? I am so confused, wall! I also feel<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"really
really guilty, because I\u2019m cheating on her with this other guy. I think I like him more than my rich gf, but I\u2019m not really sure. He\u2019s vegan and Buddhist. Now he gets me wondering, should I become vegan? Should I switch from orthodox Jewish to be a buddhist?<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"My
My mom\u2019s Jewish, so should I switch religions and give up my family for my boyfriend? Sounds like a good idea to me, but what do you think, Wall? We\u2019ve been dating for about two weeks, so I think it\u2019s time to make some changes. I\u2019m also worried<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"about
about what my family with think when I introduce my boyfriend to them. Maybe I should invite him for Thanksgiving, Wall, b\/c its coming up. Although, he would not be able to eat anything, because he\u2019s vegan. I\u2019ve also been wondering, what is the meaning of life? And am I enough? I don\u2019t know if I\u2019m enough for<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"my
my boyfriend. He\u2019s pressuring me into doing something very serious, something I don\u2019t think I\u2019m ready for because I\u2019ve never done it before. He wants me to become vegan. I feel really bad, because I eat cheeseburgers behind his back. Should I <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"behind
behind his back. Should I tell him? I really love cheeseburgers, and I can\u2019t give them up. Wait! Is it possible to be a vegan that still eats cheeseburgers? This gets me thinking that I might need to break up with him. Or should I just be<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"vegan
vegan and buddhist to make him happy, and give up on my family? Okay, just one more thing. My dog pooped in my bed the other day. Wall, where do you think is the best place<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"to
to get good, cheap detergent around here? I don\u2019t have any and I\u2019ve been wearing the same underwear for a week. I\u2019ve also been sleeping on the floor. So I could really use an answer to the detergent question.\n<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

You have an overwhelming number of important questions; you probably feel more than a little overwhelmed. I recommend talking many of these issues through with someone who can be both sympathetic and objective, and help you determine priorities for addressing and making sense of them. Counseling Services would be a good place to start: bit.ly\/BC-counseling. For the dog poop I recommend any detergent plus oxy-clean or bleach, both available at any local grocery or drug store.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Girl
Girl WTF<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

It can certainly be startling to see someone else’s internal monologue. Many of us are walking (or standing) around with such internal voices; it takes bravery to make it public, even anonymously, because you never know how people will respond. I was a little surprised myself, but it’s never a mistake to be compassionate.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

You have an overwhelming number of important questions; you probably feel more than a little overwhelmed. I recommend talking many of these issues through with someone who can be both sympathetic and objective, and help you determine priorities for addressing and making sense of them. Counseling Services would be a good place to start: bit.ly\/BC-counseling. … <\/p>\n

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